Coming To Terms With Reality

What does this even mean? Why do we always have to give way to "reality"? Why is it always assumed that we must give into the "facts of life", the "way things are"? Because it's just the way it is. Isn't it? I know I'm being a bit vague. My troubles are mostly vague and I struggle to place a finger on them at times. When I feel lost, I blame "reality". I blame "the way things are" when I loose focus. I blame society. I blame the world. I can get pretty dramatic at this game. Blame is so easy. It's one of my favorite cliches. Structure is the big red target; my own agency is kept safe from the finger pointing.